In thirty-plus trips around the world teaching relationship seminars, we've been asked the following question perhaps more than any other: How can I know when it's time to leave a troubled relationship? It doesn't matter whether we're in Calcutta or Chicago or Copenhagen--someone almost always raises a hand to ask this question.
We know how difficult this question is, because we've both asked it ourselves in painful relationships of the past. Often times the person who asks it has so much pain written on his or her face that we first ask the person to pause for a moment to acknowledge that pain. We invite the person to take ten seconds of self-acceptance and self-appreciation for weathering the difficulties that have obviously given rise to the question.
The Big Question
We've found that one question can provide a great leap forward in helping you make the decision of whether to leave or stay. To answer it, you need to go deeply inside yourself to consult your own inner emotional world. You need to feel the pain that's living in your body, and you need to compare that pain to the feeling of positive potential. Then you ask yourself this question: DOES THE PAIN YOU FEEL ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP OVER-SHADOW THE POTENTIAL YOU FEEL?
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