The more you make your goals attainable-something that the mind can accept as at least a possibility-the more likely you are to be able to release any obstacle that you have within you to achieve the goal.

Include yourself in the goal statement.
In other words, if you want to clean your house, you might want to phrase your goal as, "I allow myself to clean my house, "as opposed to," The house is clean." If you say, "The house is clean," you might not believe it. You might also start waiting for a miracle to happen so that the house gets clean by itself. If you've had tremendous resistance to cleaning your house and then you release on this goal, "I allow myself to easily clean the house," you may just find yourself easily cleaning the house.

Be precise and concise.
Use as few words as possible while at the same time making sure you are enthusiastic when you hear the goal. In other words, you don't want to put everything but the kitchen sink in one goal. Years ago, there was a man in a class who set up a goal, "I allow myself to have an abundant income so that I can have a new car, a house in the country, the maids to take care of the second house, and the perfect woman to have a relationship with to share all this."

As you can see there are several goals in that one goal, and they are all pulling in different directions. So the instructor helped this person simplify the goal by helping him break it down into specific individual goals. Then they created an umbrella goal that was appropriate for the whole situation which was, "I allow myself to have the good things in life and enjoy them." See how that includes everything? It doesn't cause you to pull into all sorts of conflicting directions.

Make sure you word it to facilitate letting go.
One area where you could get yourself into trouble is in the area of relationship. If you make a goal stating: "I allow Mary (or Joe) to love me," that could get you into trouble. First of all, you'll be running around doing all these things to try to get them to love you. And what if they are not even the right person for you?

This could tend to really get you stuck. Whereas if you phrased it, "I allow myself to have a loving relationship," then the goal is more open and inclusive. It might be with the person you're having a relationship with now, or it might not.

Eliminate the word "want" from your goals.
Would you rather want to have a lot of money, or would you rather just have it? Would you rather want the perfect relationship, or would you rather have the perfect relationship? Would you rather want good health, or would you rather have good health? "Want" equates to the feeling of lack, so avoid putting the feeling of lack in the goal.

Phrase it so you're focusing on the end result, not your means of achieving it.
For instance, go back to the earlier example-having a net income of $2,500 a week. Don't put how you'r e going to get it. I've heard people word goals like this: "I allow myself to make $2,500 a week by working 18 hours a day, 6 days a week," and a whole list of other actions that they thought they needed to take in order to achieve their goal.

What you will discover is that very often the actions you think you need to take in order to get the goal have absolutely nothing to do with the goal. They are only limitations or artificial obstacles that you're putting in your way. Also you'll notice as we work on goals that we'll specifically release on the action steps that you can take in order to get the goal.